
Probate myths
🧨 The Will Trap: Why Probate Is Longer, Costlier, and More Public Than You’ve Been Told
How Three Common Myths Keep Families in Court, Costing Time, Money, and Privacy
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Over the last 25 years, I’ve made my share of bad decisions — across business, investments, tax, estate planning, nonprofits, real estate — you name it.
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Today’s article is about a set of related myths that most people believe — and most marketers sell:
⚠️ The Trio of Probate Myths:
❌ Myth 1: “A Will Avoids Probate”
❌ Myth 2: “Probate Is Quick and Cheap”
❌ Myth 3: “Probate Is Private”
🔍 Let’s examine each myth through the legal lens — and the BENT Law™ Framework.
❌ MYTH 1: “A Will Avoids Probate”
💬 The Belief
“If I have a will, my family won’t need to go to court.”
📜 The Reality
A will must be filed in court to be validated. That’s what probate is.
⚖️ The Rules:
IRC §2033: All assets controlled at death — including those under a will — are part of the taxable estate.
UPC §3-102: Probate is required for will-based estates.
CA Probate Code §10810: Fees are set by law, based on gross estate value.
📚 Case: Aretha Franklin
Despite handwritten wills, her estate was probated. Years of litigation followed.
🔎 BENT Law™
B: Business interests frozen until court approval
E: Estate subject to public, lengthy process
N: No nonprofit planning tools in a will
T: Full estate exposed to tax without structuring
🧠 BENT Risk Lens
Behavior: Believed simple = safe
Entity: Owned assets personally
Numbers: Probate costs 4–8% of estate
Timing: Delays of 12–36 months
❌ MYTH 2: “Probate Is Quick and Cheap”
💬 The Belief
“Probate just takes a few months and a few forms.”
📜 The Reality
Probate takes time. Even uncontested cases stretch 12–24 months. Fees are mandated by statute, regardless of complexity.
⚖️ The Rules:
CA Probate Code §10810: 4% on first $100K, 3% on next $100K, etc.
Most states calculate probate fees on gross estate value, not what’s left after debts.
📚 Case: Prince
Died without a trust. His estate spent 6+ years in court. Legal fees alone were in the tens of millions.
🔎 BENT Law™
B: Business cash flow halts, vendors go unpaid
E: Estate value drained before heirs see anything
N: Charitable intentions delayed or denied
T: Delayed filings increase tax penalties
🧠 BENT Risk Lens
Behavior: Assumed probate was a formality
Entity: Probate triggered by default
Numbers: $50K+ loss is common
Timing: Final distribution delayed for years
❌ MYTH 3: “Probate Is Private”
💬 The Belief
“My estate is a family matter — it’s handled quietly.”
📜 The Reality
Probate is a public court process. Anyone can look up your will, debts, asset list, and heirs.
⚖️ The Rules:
Most state courts (e.g., Texas, Florida) publish probate filings online
Heirs, values, bequests, and disputes are public information
📚 Case: Frank Sinatra’s family
Despite his planning, legal documents related to the estate still became media stories due to public filings.
🔎 BENT Law™
B: Business valuations made public
E: Heirs exposed to scams and lawsuits
N: No anonymous gifts possible
T: IRS and creditors can use public filings to challenge values
🧠 BENT Risk Lens
Behavior: Mistaken belief in privacy
Entity: No shield; all assets tied to name
Numbers: Exposure to identity theft, scams
Timing: Public access lasts for decades
🧠 Why These Myths Are So Dangerous
When these three beliefs are combined, they form the “Will Trap” — a false sense of security that leads families straight into:
Court battles
Unnecessary fees
Delayed inheritances
Public drama
Tax consequences
And none of it is accidental. The system was built this way — but you can plan around it, if you know what to look for.
📌 Additional Reference Material
IRC §2033 – Gross Estate Inclusion
Uniform Probate Code (UPC)
CA Probate Code §10810
Texas Estates Code §256.001
Real-world cases: Estate of Prince, Aretha Franklin, Sinatra Family, In re Estate of Lawrence
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